I would suggest we consider saying that a person was enslaved rather than a slave when the sentence allows b/c it clarifies that this was a forced condition rather than a defining feature of that person, you are a human being who is enslaved, not a slave. As for Master as a title for a boy, it doesn't really bother me… » 3/06/12 10:44pm 3/06/12 10:44pm

I never even considered changing my name when I got married but I dont' really have a problem with my kids having their father's name. Not b/c of any ideas about the breadwinner is head of house etc. Whenever I think of it I think of an saying I heard once, "Mama's baby, daddy's maybe." For the most part women have… » 11/04/11 8:08pm 11/04/11 8:08pm

@UUsprite: thank you, i thought I was alone in my confusion. I constantly walk through that store and wonder what type of activity or event their clothing is meant for. It's too businessy for actual clubbing and too clubby for actual business and not fashiony enough for the only possible crossover I could think of, a… » 7/16/10 3:23pm 7/16/10 3:23pm

@alliallialli: be there be there be there and tread lightly around relationship advice, you want to express your concern but don't drive her away. it also depends on how close and open you were previous to the abusive relationship, if you weren't that close you have to be even more careful about seeming like you're… » 7/03/10 7:36pm 7/03/10 7:36pm

@CellophaneJane: i too tend to be overly practical and always ended with shoes in black/brown because I didn't want to spend a lot of money on something I wouldn't wear a lot. Then I realized, so many colors work as neutrals. If you just go with it and buy a pair of shoes you really love you'll find yourself coming up… » 7/01/10 7:36pm 7/01/10 7:36pm

Not a hater (still wear their stuff) but if you're on the bigger side of the spectrum beware the fittings at Victoria's secret. They generally only carry up to DD in the store. I got fitted there and was told I was a 38 DD, never happy with my bras then went to a department store and found out I'm really a 34 F, it… » 6/25/10 7:49pm 6/25/10 7:49pm

@maude_flanders: there's something called the mamalian dive reflex, babies are born with the instinct to hold their breath and open their eyes underwater although i'm not sure for how long. of course I wouldn't suggest relying on this and leaving your kid unsupervised, they can drown in just a couple inches of water. » 6/14/10 6:32pm 6/14/10 6:32pm

To be honest I'm so inured to this phenomenon that I wouldn't have noticed if this weren't pointed out. I'm just used to never finding any "nude" or "skin tone" products in my skin color. I don't care what they call it, I just want someone to make underwear in my skin color. Although the link they had about Michelle… » 6/12/10 7:09pm 6/12/10 7:09pm

@nobodyr: totally worth it if you make a lot of guacamole. it is essentially a mortar and pestle but the way the material is rough makes it much easier to smash avocados which are super slippery. they slip and slide and are hard to squash in a normal smooth mortar, they're even hard to mash in a bowl with a fork » 5/26/10 9:07am 5/26/10 9:07am

@ShadyLane: i agree including registry information is tacky but i think suggesting a dress code is a thoughtful touch, especially if the venue isn't clear cut. it would have saved me a lot of stress at some weddings i've been to to know if it was black tie or more of a cocktail vibe. I mean a beach or the Ritz is… » 5/23/10 7:08pm 5/23/10 7:08pm

@ShadyLane: Pregnancy isn't some mysterious state that happens to women inexplicably. I think if we can trust a woman to operate a submarine we can trust her to understand instructions, risks and benefits and that if she's had sex then she should make sure she's not pregnant (by peeing on a stick as you put it) before… » 5/13/10 4:34pm 5/13/10 4:34pm

A men's beard trimmer, with a guard that lets you adjust to length. I just use a pretty cheap one I picked up at Target. You can get the hair really short, so nothing, um...gets in the way (i.e. mouth). No ingrown hairs, nothing sticking out of skimpy underwear, bathing suits. For actually shaving the bikini line,… » 4/10/10 12:35pm 4/10/10 12:35pm

@alphaginger: Keeping busy. Going out with friends, because I was too embarrassed to cry in public. Sometimes pretending to feel fine actually *does* make you feel better. On the other hand, being understanding when it's too exhausting to try to pretend that it's all ok. » 4/03/10 12:06am 4/03/10 12:06am